How do you love?
Answer 60 questions to see how you show up in a relationship across six dimensions, and get the conversation card that fits you out of 64 types.
Eight ways of loving
Groups formed by drive, orientation and conviction. Adding distance, expression and conflict style splits them into 64 types.
P-W-F
Flame Companion
Passion, romance, tenderness
P-W-T
Vision Pioneer
Energy, goals, growing together
P-M-F
Romantic Artist
Sensibility, originality, artistic immersion
P-M-T
Driven Explorer
Freedom, initiative, fresh stimulation
S-W-F
Warm Nest
Rest, coziness, attentive care
S-W-T
Steadfast Fortress
Trust, stability, organized responsibility
S-M-F
Sensitive Self-Reliant
Calm, refuge, individuality
S-M-T
Independent Realist
Simplicity, clarity, rational boundaries
How the test works
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Answer 60 questions
There are no right answers. Pick what's true for you, not what you think you should be.
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Get scored on six dimensions
Drive, orientation, conviction, distance, expression and conflict style are each scored.
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Receive your conversation card
See your type, questions to ask each other, and a prescription for when conflict comes up.
Research basis
Six dimensions rooted in relationship science
LPM's six dimensions weren't made up from scratch. They translate decades of research on love and relationships into everyday language.
- Drive01P PassionS StabilitySternberg's triangular theoryLee's color wheel of loveHiggins' regulatory focus
- Orientation02W WarmthM MindClark & Mills communal relationshipsInterdependence theoryAron's self-expansion model
- Conviction03F FeelingT ThinkingKruglanski's need for closureIntuitive vs analytic decisions
- Distance04C CloseI IndependentHazan & Shaver adult attachmentBartholomew & Horowitz four categories
- Expression05A ActionE WordsChapman's five love languagesStafford & Canary maintenance behaviors
- Conflict06R ImmediateD BufferGottman's Four HorsemenChristensen demand–withdrawRusbult's EVLN model